Escape the Paradox
Welcome to Escape the Paradox, where I explore the reality of coercive control—the cruel Catch 22 where home, the place meant to be safest, becomes the most dangerous. I’m Helena, sharing my story and diving into research, survivor experiences, and expert insights to uncover tools for healing and reclaiming your truth. Together, we’ll navigate the healing journey and I'll help you gain the confidence and strength to understand and own your narrative.
Escape the Paradox
Abuse is Abuse: Why Labels Don't Help
In this very first episode of Escape the Paradox, I explore a common misconception: the idea that labeling an abuser—whether as a narcissist, psychopath, or anything else—somehow explains, or excuses, their behavior.
Abuse isn’t about a diagnosis; it’s about actions.
We dive into why focusing on labels can shift the conversation away from what really matters: the harm caused and the patterns of control, intimidation, and manipulation that define abuse.
Join me as we uncover the truths about abuse, discuss why labels often fall short, and refocus our attention on moving forward.
Sources
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (5th ed.) – American Psychiatric Association (2013).
Link: https://doi.org/10.1176/appi.books.9780890425596
For more information and access to Hare’s checklist used extensively in forensic psychology to evaluate personality traits and behaviors associated with psychopathy, visit here: https://arc.psych.wisc.edu/self-report/psychopathy-checklist-revised-pclr/ and download the checklist.
Together, we’ll explore the complexities of coercive control, learn how to speak our truth, and find strength in knowing we’re not alone. This is a space where we can come together, share our struggles, and rebuild our lives, one word at a time.
If you’d like to connect, share your story, or even be part of the podcast, you can email me at escapetheparadox@outlook.com. Follow the podcast on TikTok and Instagram—just search for @escapetheparadox.
Listen in on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen to your podcasts. I’m here to walk this path with you.
Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode, and join me as we break the silence together. In upcoming episodes, we’ll dive deeper into the realities of coercive control, hear from survivors, and explore ways to reclaim our voices and our power.
